Are you in the habit of blaming people closest to you when things don’t go your way? We’ve all been guilty of blaming others for our shortcomings and yes, I am guilty of this extreme too.
The people who don’t pattern in casting their blame onto the world, are the top income earning elite, the mentally tough. Taking full responsibility for every aspect of their own lives, through intense training these warriors understand that to win at life, they can not allow others to have a say in the running.
In other words, they take complete ownership of every single area of their life, with extreme action, they know and believe that EVERYTHING, yes, everything is their fault!
The depressed and anxious use, “everything is my fault,” as a way to sink lower into their darkness. While the Elite Warriors use it as a stepping stone to jump to the next level and power through the shitty feeling in order to become better, by passing it in the future.
In my training for some of the toughest obstacles in my life, this principle has become my #1 focus. “Everything is my fault, from my lot in life, my finances, my body, relationship status, even my triumphs.” I simply cannot allow anyone else to stand in my way, complete ownership is understanding that when I fail, it’s because I didn’t put enough effort into my mission…
Didn’t get that job? It’s your fault, you didn’t prepare enough, you didn’t impress human resources, you didn’t crush the interview. What do you do? Prepare, work at it and become better.
I fail at a lot of things, as an example, I’m a dick to most of the people who say they’re going to buy something from me but never do. This pisses me off, I get upset and tell them off and now I’ve lost not just them but their friends as well. Totally my fault.
Unless you play the blame game and get on the customer for not buying something because they said they would. Maybe that person just didn’t have the time or money yet?
In boot camp, I failed my 1.5 mile run 2 times before the cutoff date to start Battlestations. Was I going to blame my Chief because I couldn’t run? No, I blamed the fatty, sugary food that I CHOSE to put into my body, once I owned that shit, (literally, I shit out the bad toxins) I ate healthier and passed my run. In, How I Beat a 1 Mile Steep Mountain Run, Parker, goes into the Elite Focus and complete ownership used to complete the run.
Elite Warriors prep for their missions so entirely that even the most minute detail is never left off the table, every turning point, disaster and outcome of their objective are trained for. Who do you think these elite soldier blame if the mission goes sour and they fail?
When you live with the mentally tough mindset that everything from winning to losing is your fault and no one else’s, that is, “owning it.” When you own your actions you allow yourself to grow and conquer your goals, through intense training, studying, work, whatever it takes to accomplish your purpose. Leaving nothing on the table, no one or nothing to take credit for your milestone.
So, how do you think taking complete ownership comes together when working as a team?
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